Day 12: 5 Blessings in my Life
1. MY MUMMY:
My Naughty Girl. Stubborn Woman. Queen of Pranks. Most Beautiful Girl in Obowu LG, Imo State. The one that knows how to deliver all the gist and gossip about what happened at Yotomi Golden Estate, Ofada, Owode, Mowe and Ogun State in general in just 2 weeks while I was in school for 3 months – 6 months.
For never sparing the worst words to show me my errors; for sacrificing her progress, dreams, so I could go one step closer to mine. Even if passion fails me, the understanding of what my mother has put on the line for my sake presses me to push on. I cannot fail. There is no Plan B after me.
2. MY WRITING:
I’d probably be dead by now if I didn’t know how to write, and I’m not exaggerating. In my low suicidal moments, forcing myself to write about how I feel always lifts me up. There’s something about seeing your challenges on paper that allows the mind transit from worrying to constructively thinking about how to surmount it. Writing helps me organize my life.
Since 2016, I’ve been experimenting it with different styles of daily planning. They’ve never been perfect. A lot of times I never followed them, but I’ve progressively achieved more. I’ve almost perfected my approach to time management and daily planning. Once it’s perfect, I’ll teach others. Writing helps me take and feel in control of my life. At times, I wonder how I ever survived without daily schedules, to-do lists and time management.
Then again, my writing makes me feel good. The fact that I am good at something, something no one can take from me, is a protection from whatever the word throws to me.
3. SUPPORTIVE TEAMS
I recently discovered this and I’m grateful for that. For the teams in my Debate Committee who listened to me repeat my ideas, meeting after meeting, bought into it and ran with it, exhibiting an enthusiasm that surpassed mine, I’m grateful.
For my colleagues in DigiLaw and DGL Research, who picked me up when I wanted to throw everything away and move on. I started working with some of these guys from Tax 180 and their support made it possible.
I’m learning on the job what leadership and management entails but one lesson I’ve repeatedly learnt, to get supportive teams, you must repeatedly show a belief in what you want to achieve. It is your faith in your project that will flow down to your colleagues and followers. If you want others to believe in your ideas, you must believe in them.
4. MY CIRCLE OF FRIENDS
A friend of mine, Tolu Dada, once said that whenever she has doubts about her chances of success, she looks at those in her circle. The ‘amazingness’ of these people just assures that she can do no worse than them. I adopt her thoughts as mine. From Agboola E.O. Tolu Dada herself, David Akindolire, Abdulai Zainab, Samuel Korieh, Solomon Nzere, Abejide Tosin, Fabusiwa Tayo, Tijani Taofeek, Chidi Obialor and so many others I can hardly list. When I see what they consistently achieve, I know I have no excuse to be the weak link in the chain. If they can achieve this, I can do the same or even better. I love the fact that none of us is on the same path. Everyone is unique in some way. They are my direct competition and co-conspirators. I look forward to when we’ll do Mavericks reunion in 10 to 20 years’ time. My pot belly will be out of this world by then.
5. THE ABILITY TO SUPPORT MYSELF FINANCIALLY
This is not a small something for me. Since last year, I have depended less and less on money from home and I’m grateful for that. It has not been easy, but very interesting. I’ve done really crazy things to make money in this school before finally setting with writing, from selling foo-foo, soap, and even pasting posters. If I no talk, you go know? That’s one of the beautiful things about this white and black dress code for law students – once you’re on it, its imagine to the things we do when we take it off.